Published August 17, 2026 Written by NDNA

Top tips: Engaging the important men in children’s lives

Men can play an important role in children’s learning, development and well-being. This may include fathers, stepfathers, grandfathers, uncles, foster cares, male partners and other significant men in children’s life. When the important people in children’s lives feel welcomed, valued and involved in nursery life, children benefit from stronger relationships, increased confidence and positive learning experiences.

Every family is different so creating an inclusive environment means recognising and welcoming the people who are important to each child. By offering meaningful opportunities to participate and building positive relationships all families, nurseries can help every child feel supported and thrive.

Read our top tips for making your nursery a welcoming and inclusive place for the important men in children’s lives.

Top tips in engaging men in children’s lives

Celebrate the important men in children’s lives.

Every family is different. Welcome and value fathers, stepfathers, grandfathers, foster carers, uncles, male partners and other significant men who play an important role in a child’s life

Make everyone feel welcome from day one.

It may sound obvious, but first impressions matter. Greet parents, carers and other important adults in a warm and friendly way. Use names where possible, make eye contact and take the time to include everyone in conversations during settling-in sessions, arrivals and collections

Plan a wide range of activities and events.

Consider offering a variety of activities that encourage different family members to take part. Practical, hands-on experiences could include woodland walks, den building, gardening, creative projects, music, cooking or sports sessions. Ask families what they would enjoy and use their feedback to help shape events

Communicate inclusively.

Wherever possible, share newsletters, observations and updates with all parents and carers who have an important role in the child’s life. Consider whether your communication methods and language are inclusive and ensure that important information is shared with the appropriate adults

Offer flexible opportunities to participate.

Recognise that work, caring responsibilities and other commitments can make attending nursery events difficult. Offering a range of opportunities at different times, including after work or at weekends, can help more family members get involved

Encourage families to share their interests and skills.

Invite family members to share something they enjoy or are passionate about. This could include gardening, music, a hobby, a cultural tradition, a job or a particular skill. Building on people’s interests and expertise can help them feel confident to get involved

Actively seek the views of families.

Ask families for feedback and involve them in decisions where appropriate. Showing that their views are listened to and valued helps strengthen partnerships between home and nursery

Reflect diverse families positively throughout the nursery.

Display photographs, books, posters and resources that show diversity including men playing with, caring for and spending time with children. Positive representation helps families see themselves reflected in the nursery environment and reinforces the message that everyone has an important role to play in children’s lives.

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